What To Do When You Stop Believing In Yourself

A strong belief in your ability to achieve your goals and live your life with purpose is essential to success. The challenge is that life and business are not perfect. Mistakes are made. Deals are lost. Goals are not met. And, overtime if you don’t guard your heart and mind you can lose faith in yourself. You cease to see yourself as capable, equipped, and called for a purpose.

Left unchecked, this can lead to a daily struggle with doubt, fear of failure, and a sense of paralysis when it comes to doing what you know you should and can do to reach your goals and live a meaningful life. I know this is not true for everyone, but I am seeing it more and more each day.

One of the best displays of this type of thinking can be seen on the television show Extreme Weight Loss. My wife and I watch this show regularly with our children because we have found it provides wonderful insight into the harm that unresolved issues, a lack of forgiveness, and a failure to confront bad habits can have on a persons psyche and belief in themselves.

While not an exhaustive list, here are a few tips to help you regain your belief in yourself and your ability to live and lead with purpose:

  • Realize that everyone struggles at some point in life with these types of feelings and that you are not alone.
  • Make a list of the talents, gifts, and skills you have been blessed with and have developed over time. Write down 3-5 actions you can take to use those gifts in service to someone else.
  • Identify the moment you stopped believing in yourself. What happened? Is there a need for forgiveness or an opportunity to extend grace that will help you move on?
  • Clear your schedule and take a day to reflect on your current reality and where you want to be in the next six months. Make a list of the actions you can take to close the gap between your vision and current reality.
  • Make a list of the top priorities in your life and identify 2-3 actions you can take consistently to help you live or lead with greater purpose.
  • Set 3-5 short-term goals that you can easily achieve to help you start to regain your confidence. When you achieve these stretch yourself a little further with more goals.
  • Ask for help. Find someone you trust – a coach, pastor, friend, counselor – that will encourage you, hold you accountable, and walk this journey with you.

No matter where you find yourself today, remember that you were created for a purpose. You have gifts, talents, and skills to offer this world and the community around you. I believe in you. Have the courage to believe in yourself and make a difference in the lives of those you love and lead.

Make it a great day!

Coach Dan