Blaming Others

The man said, “The woman you put here with me—she gave me some fruit from the tree, and I ate it." - Genesis 3:12

It is so easy to caught in the trap of blaming others when things don't go right, goals are not met, and mistakes are made. I don't want to disappoint people or let them down. But more importantly I don't want my faults and sin to be known by the world so I deflect, point fingers, and play the blame game.

Rather than take ownership for my actions, or lack there of, I make excuses when I should be taking time to reflect on the motives of my heart. I need to dive deep to see what it is inside of me that prevents me from speaking up - not doing what I should do - and not choosing to be led by the Spirit.

Adam's silence changed the course of history - he was by her side when Eve needed him most but he was silent and he watched as she was led astray and deceived by Satan. His response was then to blame the woman. This sin runs deep in all mankind, but through the power of the Spirit I know I can make better choices. I can take ownership of my actions, I can lead those I love and serve and guide them to make wise choices. I can speak up and not remain silent.

LORD, thank you for your grace and patience. Help me not to make excuses. Help me to remember my reality is a reflection of what I allow and create. Holy Spirit, help me to allow more of you into my life so that I can be led by you. Jesus, teach me to take ownership for all that you put before me. Teach me how to not blame others but instead to love them and care for them, Amen.

Questions To Consider:

  • When something at work or at home goes wrong, is your first instinct to blame others, if so why?
  • Are you creating an environment where those you love and serve can openly share when they've done something wrong?
  • Have you been blaming someone for something that you need to take ownership of - and perhaps extend forgiveness?

Make it a great day!

Coach Dan